SCRIPTURAL ADVICE FOR DIVORCE IN ABUSIVE SITUATION
Whether or not a mean husband is a believer, it comes under ICor 7:15—” But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” And this is why it doesn’t matter: ITimothy 5:8—“But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”—This means that husbands who do not provide for their wives are worse than unbelievers, and therefore fall under ICor. 7:15. Provision is more than a paycheck. Husbands are commanded to love and nurture their wives (Ephes 5:25 and Col 3:19)
The Lord showed me these verses when He said the time was right for me to divorce. And, since my husband was obsessed with the house, and would never leave, He showed me that a husband who acts like that has already left the marriage, because an infidel (sometimes called a retrobate) has, rejected God and his family already, so these two verses are perfectly clear that sometimes we need to get out because God has called us to live in peace, and that’s impossible with a man like that.
We need to understand that we are only responsible for our actions, not our husband’s. These verses should show us that God wants peace more than He wants churches enforcing rules like the pharisees did without any common sense or Word from God. Don’t worry, you did the only thing you could do. God can use you now, but probably not in that situation.